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31 March 2011 28 Comments

A gentleman, on the subject of women

Through my journey over the last six months there has been something on the periphery which has been bugging me a little.  It has been the assumption, from some individuals, that being a gentleman is in some way automatically belittling to women. I wanted to put some of my thoughts down on this. Today’s Gentleman [...]

1 March 2011 6 Comments

Approaching the world with empathy.

I have lost count of the amount of times I have been asked by newspapers, magazines and radio presenters to list the key attributes of a gentleman.  Usually it is also then couched in what lessons am I teaching my two boys to ensure they grow up to be gentlemen. In previous posts and conversations [...]

22 December 2010 5 Comments

Are there ‘Gentleman’s Agreements’ anymore?

Whatever happened to “Gentleman’s Agreements”?  When a person’s word was their bond? We seem to be in an age of mistrust and shallow relationships.  An age where, unless agreements are locked down in water-tight legal documents, they don’t really exist.  Even marriages with binding prenuptial agreements? Gone are the days of being able to take [...]

18 December 2010 10,759 Comments

Is being a Gentleman unfashionable??

I just had a fascinating chat with a Guy I used to work with.  He is not interested in what I am doing here, or with International BaG day.  His comment: They [women] wanted equality so stuff them,  if I get to the seat first I’m keeping it! I then asked about pregnant women and [...]

15 December 2010 11,479 Comments

The Gentle Habit

I feel that being a Gentleman stems not from some temporary influence, or a momentary decision to change some behaviours.  Being a Gentleman is more a state of mind, a world view, a sense of self and where you fit into the world built up over time.  It is something that is perfected with practice, [...]

4 December 2010 14,506 Comments

The Gentleman’s radar

I believe that as a Gentleman goes about his day he has an active radar.  This radar is actively scanning the area and the people around him, sensing those that may need his assistance. This is in stark contrast to how many people seem to go about their days, with horse blinkers on, or tunnel vision that [...]

3 December 2010 14,131 Comments

The Buddhist Gentleman?

 I was reminded the other day by a learned Today’s Gentleman member (thanks Steve) about the Buddhist concept of compassion. In The Essence of the Heart Sutra, His Holiness the Dalai Lama wrote, “According to Buddhism, compassion is an aspiration, a state of mind, wanting others to be free from suffering. It’s not passive — [...]

22 November 2010 19,563 Comments

Are Gentlemen appreciated anymore?

Sometimes I wonder if Gentlemen are even appreciated anymore or are they viewed as a awkward reminder of a past age.  It seems to me, sometimes, that many men think having to consider others all the time is a little too hard to do.  I have heard many comments about Gentlemanly conduct from other men like: “Gee [...]

13 November 2010 13,738 Comments

Did feminism destroy Chivalry??

Possibly a controversial topic but one worth pondering… Please don’t get me wrong, I am fully supportive of feminism, and the importance of equal rights in the home and the workplace.  What I do worry about though is the uncertainty some aspects of feminism has created in relation to how a Gentleman should treat a Lady. I [...]

11 November 2010 17,717 Comments

Best definition of a Gentleman I have read

I had to share this, because it spoke to me as a very clear definition of a Gentleman.  Jerry Dollar, Executive and Author based in Colorado Springs, shared this with the group: I turn to the Code of Olde as embraced by the medieval orders around the world for an answer. It all begins with [...]