31 March 2011 28 Comments

A gentleman, on the subject of women

Through my journey over the last six months there has been something on the periphery which has been bugging me a little.  It has been the assumption, from some individuals, that being a gentleman is in some way automatically belittling to women. I wanted to put some of my thoughts down on this. Today’s Gentleman […]

1 March 2011 6 Comments

Approaching the world with empathy.

I have lost count of the amount of times I have been asked by newspapers, magazines and radio presenters to list the key attributes of a gentleman.  Usually it is also then couched in what lessons am I teaching my two boys to ensure they grow up to be gentlemen. In previous posts and conversations […]

26 February 2011 7 Comments

Portrait of a gentleman

This is a portrait of  a gentleman as espoused by John Henry Cardinal Newman in the mid-1800’s.  I don’t actually agree with all of his points, but it certainly is a window into the age and their ideal of the gentleman. It is almost a definition of a gentleman to say he is one who […]

28 January 2011 17 Comments

Do the stylish automatically qualify?

Do clothes make the man?  Well, in a word, and in my opinion – no. Quite often we will see the hallmarks of a gentleman discussed and invariably there will be comment about style or fashion. “This season, the gentleman of distinction will be wearing European tailor made…..” Fashion is fleeting, quite often over priced, […]

13 January 2011 12 Comments

Heroism from Holland

To be honest, I really did not expect such a response to the Heroes’ Handbook, the eBook we published in the first week of January in the Netherlands. And I was totally amazed that even followers from Australia responded so well, considering that the book is only available in Dutch. Wow! Now, you may think that […]

10 January 2011 8 Comments

Today’s Gentleman – not the Victorian type

In the Victorian era a Gentleman was defined by a number of characteristics.  The purists preferred to only recognise those who qualified as a Gentleman through right of birth into the right bloodline, social status, wealth, deportment or their professional station in life.  Although it was admitted that a man cannot be a Gentleman by […]

4 January 2011 10 Comments

The Integrity of a Gentleman

When I look to the source of  all contemporary wisdom – wikipedia, it tells me: Integrity is a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the quality of having an intuitive sense of honesty and truthfulness in regard to the motivations for one’s actions.  Integrity can be regarded as […]

29 December 2010 4 Comments

Attributes of a Gentleman

Thought I would share a post on the attributes of a Gentleman from http://jaewonjoh.com Intelligence: a gentleman should be well-read in multiple fields of literature, able to competently discourse about the news of his time, and possess an intellectual curiosity that respects the beauty of interdisciplinary thought. As a corollary, he should also be versed in […]

19 December 2010 21,171 Comments

The True Gentleman

Dr John Walter Wayland, an historian and teacher, submitted “The True Gentleman” to The Baltimore Sun in 1899 as part of a competition for the best definition of a true gentleman with Wayland’s submission being crowned the winner. “The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of […]

18 December 2010 10,759 Comments

Is being a Gentleman unfashionable??

I just had a fascinating chat with a Guy I used to work with.  He is not interested in what I am doing here, or with International BaG day.  His comment: They [women] wanted equality so stuff them,  if I get to the seat first I’m keeping it! I then asked about pregnant women and […]